Date Published: November 11, 2023
Publisher: Burggraff Tash Levy PLC
How can you end your marriage with dignity and respect? While divorce can be filled with anger, frustration, and bitterness, most couples don’t want to end their marriage in an ugly, drawn-out battle that causes irreparable damage.
Does a Good Divorce Really Exist? (Absolutely!) is your definitive guide through the difficult journey of divorce. Randi Burggraff, Justin Tash, and Bryan Levy lay out a roadmap to help you understand the process, rules, and potential outcomes. More importantly, you will master the critical mindset shift that will get you and your partner on the path to a “good” divorce.
Educate yourself by using the examples of healthy divorces to understand what’s involved at each step. This book will guide you through potential pitfalls so you can prepare mentally and think strategically. This book helps you approach heated conflicts in ways that will allow you to emerge with your emotional well-being and integrity intact.
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Excerpt from "Does A Good Divorce Really Exist?"
a Positive to Divorce?
For various reasons, no one likes going to court, and we
will talk more about this later. But, if there is a positive in the realm of
divorce, we are seeing a trend where most people want to settle outside of
court. This includes attorneys and clients.
That does not mean that all cases settle out of court. We
cannot control opposing parties, opposing counsel, courts, new girlfriends, new
boyfriends, parents, or other external influences. Unfortunately, when
litigants attempt to impose control on their soon-to-be ex-spouse, they
typically wind up inside a courtroom. When people get vindictive, they get
sidetracked, and are no longer focused on the resolution. This increases
animosity and legal fees. We hope we can help you avoid that.
Staying focused on the resolution elevates you out of the
mud. You can acknowledge that parts of this process really suck, but problems
have to be addressed to keep you on track toward that resolution. We have found
that this approach actually improves relationships the parties have with their
common friends, their children, and even between themselves.
Most clients arrive hurt and sad, with their defenses up.
People have a natural tendency to want to lash out and defend themselves, which
is 100 percent understandable—these are valid feelings. What we hope you will
see, however, is a better path—even if it’s not clear to you at this particular
moment. That does not mean you’re wrong to be angry. That does not mean this
person hasn’t done terrible things, or they didn’t cheat on you, take your
money, or whatever else they did. But if your end goal is to burn them and
waste every single penny you have in the process, no one benefits.
There will be bumps in the road. There will be questions.
There will be emotional highs and lows. There will be wins and losses. Quiet
times and busy times. Those things are okay, normal, and to be expected. No one
can be prepared 100 percent for the divorce process in its entirety, but there
is a better way to prepare yourself mentally for the rollercoaster ride you are
about to step on to.
We are able to help the hypothetical Janes and Bobs of the
world think strategically instead of emotionally. By keeping an open mind, they
could see the bigger picture. This enabled them to determine their goals and
take the high road in order to attain them. In time, many of them actually
developed a better relationship with their former spouse than they had during
their marriage (though without regrets, as they are often reminded of why they
Identifying the end goal gives you clarity to see the
divorce for what it is—as we already mentioned, it’s a series of steps and
procedures until a resolution is reached. You will arrive at a point where you
say: I can live with this divorce. This did not destroy me. I can live with the
resolution that I have. I am going to be okay, and I am ready to move forward
with the rest of my life.
So, how do we get there? Keep reading.